The most overlooked pre-requisite for good leadership is love. When I am coaching someone, I consider the whole person. My core principal is you are who you are. People often try harder to “behave” at work – covering parts of themselves. However, your authentic self emerges still. So if a person has no love that authentic self will not be patient, gracious, and kind ; at least not long enough to build solid ties at work such that others want to rally behind them time after time.
There are many types of love that can undergird good leadership.For example, love of your family can provide you with a template for the type of love you need to lead a team. This love of family can empower a leader to take more, do more, and/or embrace more challenges because they have the love of their family to show them what is possible when love is present. Love of work and love of the brand or product generally run a close second and third when I ask my clients what they love the most in their lives at any given time.
But if you love nothing it will be very hard to be a good leader, because you won’t have this framework of passion and compassion to draw upon. These things are required to move things along when the going gets tough. Leadership is about leading when things go smoothly as well as when things get rocky. Now, depending on how good you are at showing, expressing, and communicating your love will determine if you can have great leadership. This does not mean you don’t get upset or frustrated at all; it just means that the leader with the capacity to love that exercises this capacity consistently knows how to make sure that everything can come back to love and is done in love.
In closing, it is not my job to judge what or who you love, but to find out if you have the capacity TO love and to then show you how that love can help you correct areas in your leadership that are holding you back from being a good/great leader. However, if you are faltering in your leadership and don’t have a coach to help you on your journey, first look to see if you can find any love in your life. And if you can’t locate any real love anywhere, I suggest you turn inward because it is very likely you may need to first start loving yourself. That will be the first step in your journey on being a good leader.